l      Life is like a math word problem. It takes… attention, energy, focus, work, devotion, figuring, thinking, and planning,  all of which culminate in arriving at a solution. If things don’t add up right, it’s back to the drawing board, to redo it until it’s right. Life gives us plenty of opportunities to do it right. Freud says we are compelled to recreate situations until we do it right.

l      Freud is known to have posited that every marital complaint is, in fact, a marital wish. Accepting the truth of this is often a formidable challenge! Finding the truth can result in settling many an impasse.

l      Parenting calls forth a love on the part of the parent that requires shedding light on some of our deepest pain.

l      Intimacy in a relationship is a gift to yourself as well as to the other.

l      Good parenting comes from taking in information from the outside as well as the inside.

l      Trusting is one of the most basic and elementary stepping stones to a rich life, yet sometimes taking the step can be one of the most difficult to do.

l      The word, “No”, is shorthand for “I am not you”.

l      When the young psyche creates a defense mechanism to help the individual avoid the anxiety of experiencing reality, it becomes like the “protecting friend”. When the older psyche needs to experience reality, as it is, it becomes the “distorting enemy”.

l      Actions substitute for memories.

l      Addictions are dream killers-waking or sleeping.